About the Author

Joshua Coleman, PhD, is an author and psychologist in private practice and Senior Fellow with the Council on Contemporary Families. He has presented research findings at Harvard University and The Weill Cornell Department of Psychiatry, and his advice has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Atlantic, Chicago Tribune, CNN, and many other publications. He is co-editor with historian Stephanie Coontz of seven online volumes of Unconventional Wisdom: News You Can Use: a compendium of noteworthy research on the contemporary family, gender, sexuality, poverty, and work-family issues; and the co-founder with Dr. Becca Bland of Standing Together, a centre for advancing awareness of family estrangement. He is the father of three adult children, has a teenage grandson and lives with his wife in California. He also writes music for television which has appeared on Keeping Up With the Kardashians, Lethal Weapon, Chicago Fire, Chicago PD, Longmire, Shameless, RuPaul's Drag Race, and many other shows.

Reviews

A hopeful, comprehensive, and compassionate guide to navigating one of the most painful experiences for parents and their adult children alike. The Rules of Estrangement candidly addresses parental estrangement from every conceivable angle, steering readers away from shame and blame to a place of newfound understanding and empowerment. I've seen many parents and adult children grappling with these issues, and this is exactly the book they have all been waiting for. - Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and 'New York Times' bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO TALK TO SOMEONEDr Coleman is one of the few experts in the western world on family estrangement. This book both comforts and challenges parents who are estranged from their adult children, lighting up a path for how they may repair their broken relationships. It offers excellent insights into the sociology and psychology of family relationships, which we too often assume are always supportive, close and functional. I would recommend this book to anyone looking to learn from years of refined specialist practice in this important field. - Becca Bland, Chief Executive, Stand Alone CharityA must-read guide for any parent in a troubled relationship with their adult child. - Ruth Whippman, author of THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESSFamily estrangement is shrouded in shame and secrecy, yet in Dr Coleman's experienced hands, both the causes and consequences of estrangement become far easier to comprehend. Crucially, Dr Coleman explores the complexity of estrangement whilst extending kindness and compassion for all involved. Rules of Estrangement is essential reading for anyone looking to gain insight and understanding on this topic. - Dr Lucy Blake, Senior Lecturer in Children, Young People and Families, Edge Hill UniversityI have, for many years, recommended people to see Dr Coleman, but until I read this book I don't think I ever knew the extraordinary range of his gifts. An inspirational book. - Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D. Professor, Department of Sociology, University of Washington, Seattle. Expert: 'Married at First Sight'While this is a book primarily written for parents, his compassionate view of the estranged adult child offers helpful insights for all generations involved. - Joel Kramer, Psy.D.; John Douglas French Alzheimer s Foundation Endowed Professor of Neuropsychology in Neurology, University of California, San Francisco Medical CenterRejecting glib indictments of 'toxic parents' or 'ungrateful kids', Coleman offers calming advice on ways that estranged families can recover or move on. - Stephanie Coontz, author, THE WAY WE NEVER WERE