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A Guide to Essential Manners, Savvy, and Vice

Table of Contents

Introduction       x
 
Part One: The Gregarious Gentleman       1
Chapter One: Out & About       2
Digital Man • Artful Conversation • Jukeboxing • Flaskmanship • Elevator Etiquette • At Table • Skinny-Dipping • Comings & Goings • Family Reunions • Amen Corner
Chapter Two: Entertaining      38
Group Dynamics • Hosting • Intimate Gatherings • The Active Table • Houseguests • Charcoal Briquetiquette • Bachelor Party • Best Manning
Chapter Three: Wooing      65
Flirtation • Dates • The Open Triangle • Do-It-Yourself • Long-Distance Runaround • Exes & Ohs • Taking a Break • The Crack-Up
 
Part Two: The Inner Gentleman      95
Chapter Four: Gentlemanly Knowledge      96
Literature • Poesy • Classical Music • Jazz • Fitness • Soothsaying • Man Cycle • Fonzarelli Moves & Legerdemain
Chapter Five: Appearance & Style       126
Sartorial Savvy • Accessories • Knots & Cravats • Pyjamas • Eyewear • Hatiquette & Umbrella Policy • Tattoos • Hair, Hygiene, & Habits
Chapter Six: Domesticity       154
Domestic Policy • Vittles • Single Space • Heartifacts • Toiletiquette • Spitting, Hiccoughing, & Other Expulsions
 
Part Three: The Potent Gentleman       179
Chapter Seven: Venerable Vices: Alcohol, Tobacco, & Fireworks       180
Spirits • Beyond & Tonic • The Solitary Drink • Oenophilia • Bubbly • Working with a Hangover • The Ethic of Alcohol • Tobacco • Substances • Gaming • Golf • The Ponies
Chapter Eight: Between the Sheets       221
Romantic Recon • Prophyletiquette • XXX: Phineas’s Phavourites & Tesauro’s Titillations • The Afterglow • To the Power of 3
Chapter Nine: Trouble      239
Sticky Situations & Solutions • Conversational Gaffes • Secrets, Lies, & Confidences • Office Romance • Losing It • The Bile Barometer • The Apology
 
Part Four: The Wayfaring Gentleman      263
Chapter Ten: Travel            264
Motoring • Sleeper Trains • Theorem de Valise • Guest Decorum
 
Part Five: The Ceremonial Gentleman       283
Chapter Eleven: Public Relations      284
Politics of Friends • Social System • Correspondence • Flora • Gifting • Handy Gifting Guide
Chapter Twelve: Beyond Bachelorhood      303
The Fourth Decade • The Rock • Proposals • Vows • The Good Husband
 
Afterword       314
Bibliography       316
About the Authors       319
Index      320

About the Author

Phineas Mollod uses his Vanderbilt law degree to counsel his wayward pals in divorces and landlord-tenant imbroglios and write about technology law in New York City.

Jason Tesauro forewent law school for a mastery of wine, spirits, style, and sustainable food. You'll find him swinging a croquet mallet in Richmond, Virginia, or wielding a champagne saber as he conducts the Modern Gentleman Seminar Series and other events of consequence around the world.

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