Table of Contents

Contents: Acknowledgements. Introduction. Self exploration. Looking Back. 1. Were You in an Abusive Relationship? Self exploration 'Abusive Behaviors Inventory' 2. Are you Out of Danger Now? Self exploration 'Assessing Your Risks' 3. How Could this Have Happened? Self explorations 'What You Heard Growing Up' 4. The Hidden Horror: Sexual Abuse, Self exploration 'Self-Talk' Now 5. Do You Still Love Him? Self exploration 'Why You Loved Him' 6. Losing Your Partner, Your Dream, Your Life. Self exploration 'Expressing your Feelings' 7. When Feelings Overwhelm You Self exploration 'Assessing Your Feelings' 8. Signs of Unfinished Healing Self exploration 'Is the Negative Talk Yours' 9. Managing Your Stress. Self explorations Exercise 1 'Take Care of Yourself' Exercise 2 'Schedule Stressful Thoughts' Exercise 2a 'Stressful Thoughts Inventory' Exercise 2b 'Thought Portioning Assessment' Exercise 3 'Thought Stopping' Exercise 3b 'Thought Stopping and Substitution' Exercise 4 'There's Always Too Much to Do' Exercise 5 'Deep Breathing' Exercise 6 'Progressive Muscle Relaxation' Exercise 7 'Visualization' Exercise 8 ' Meditation' Exercise 9 ' Create Your Personal Relaxation Tape' Exercise 10 'Physical Exercise' 10. What About Children? Self exploration 'Child Assessment; 11 The Reaction of Others Self exploration ' Evaluating Your Relationships' Looking Forward 12. Practical Consideration Self exploration 'How Much Money Do You Need To Survive' 3. Beginning to Heal Self exploration 'Do I Need Professional Help?' 14. Believing in Yourself Self exploration 'Who Are You?' 15. The Temptation to Go Back Self exploration 'Considering Your Options' 16. Is He Still in Your Life? Self exploration 'Planning Ahead for Contact' 17. Loving Again Self exploration ' What to Look For and What to Avoid' Postscript Resources