A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about
what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl,
(c) something in between, or (d) all of the above.
"When the political reality facing this country seems dark, we need
shinier, sparklier thinkers in the public eye. With a signature
style matched only by their wit, Jacob fits that bill perfectly."
--Alan Cumming
Jacob Tobia (@JacobTobia) is a gender nonconforming writer, producer, and performer based in Los Angeles. A member of both the Forbes "30 Under 30" and the "OUT 100," Jacob's writing and advocacy have been featured by MSNBC, The New York Times, TIME, The Guardian, and Teen Vogue, among others. A Point Foundation Scholar, Truman Scholar, and member of the Biden Foundation's Advisory Council for Advancing LGBTQ Equality, Jacob has worn high heels in the White House twice.
"[Tobia] combines incisive wit and undeniable intelligence to invite readers into their personal journey as a gender-nonconforming young person in North Carolina. . . It is in Tobia's often self-deprecating humor that Sissy is most transformative, and where it most departs from other trans memoirs. The seriousness of the topic never feels glossed over, which allows for an organic and seamless journey from tears on one page to laughing aloud on the next. If Tobia aspires to the ranks of comic memoirists like David Sedaris and Mindy Kaling, Sissy succeeds." --New York Times Book Review
"With bare honesty, irreverent humor, and refreshing
vulnerability, this memoir is a rallying cry for anyone who's ever
felt like they don't belong." --Woman's Day "When the
political reality facing this country seems dark, we need shinier,
sparklier thinkers in the public eye. With a signature style
matched only by their wit, Jacob fits that bill perfectly."
--Alan Cumming "Sissy bravely moves the needle forward,
boldly advocating for a world where people of all genders are
treated equally and with dignity. A story of audacity and courage,
Sissy is not to be missed."--Billie Jean King
"Tobia is bit of a transfeminine Nora Ephron, detailing the story
of their 'coming-of-gender' in a way that is both honest and
didactic." --OUT Magazine "Across this country young boys are
shamed and humiliated for expressing femininity, as well as young
girls for expressing masculinity. Jacob bravely seeks to end this
culture of shame."--Monica Lewinsky
"A candid, unapologetic look at Tobia's journey . . . Sissy is a
valuable dispatch from a new generation of queer activists and
artists -- the first generation with the power to connect to
themselves en masse without apology -- and it would be a blessing
if all such voices were as articulate and charismatic as this one."
--Washington Post "Jacob Tobia is a force. . . . Their voice is
unique and inspirational." --Good Morning America "Tobia sashays
away from all the expectations and trappings of what it means to be
a man or woman, and calls for us to embrace the fluidity of
identity." --O, The Oprah Magazine "You can judge Sissy by its
cover, in that it evokes glamour, solitude, humor, and resilience,
which are all key components to Tobia's vulnerable, moving story of
what it means to grow up gender nonconforming in a gender-policed
world." --Salon
"Sensational. Gut-punchingly hilarious and full of heart, this is a
book that's sure to change your outlook and how you relate to
others. Sissy is guaranteed to make your mascara run from happy and
sad tears alike."--Tyler Oakley "A necessary read about
gender, society, and the very real costs of prejudice and ignorant.
. . . An honest, funny, and poignant memoir that will completely
make you rethink the construct of gender."
--Bustle
"Sissy is filled with moments that
will both break your heart and make you howl with laughter. . .
Sissy will challenge the way you think about gender and
inspire you to consider your own struggles with gender identity."
--Hello Giggles "Genderqueer and nonbinary voices are too
often silenced in mainstream conversations about gender. It's why
we need writers like Jacob Tobia, who offer us more inclusive
visions and provide readers living beyond the binary reflections of
themselves."--Janet Mock "Refreshing, courageous, and
important [with a] feisty candor and wit...A funny, sharply
observed, and intelligent journey into self-identity."--Kirkus
Reviews "Timely and necessary." --PopSugar
"In Sissy, Tobia adds a necessary voice to our national
conversation about gender and acceptance." --TIME
"Jacob Tobia isn't here for your gender binary, and Sissy
isn't like any trans coming-out story you've heard before. . . The
book is seriously funny--because Tobia is funny--in addition
to being poignant. [Tobia] chronicles their meandering journey to
genderqueer self-ove with joy and deeply irreverent humor. It's an
inspiring and satisfying must-read." --Apple Books, A "Best of
March" Pick "[A] hilarious and candid memoir. Tobia thoughtfully
and accessibly captures the anguish of being placed inside boxes
that don't fit--how 'gender hurts us all'. . . Tobia's outspoken
refusal to be bound by social constrictions is admirable, and their
funny, sometimes raunchy voice is a charming bonus."
--Publishers Weekly "In their fabulous, fierce voice, Tobia
tells their story of coming out as genderqueer." --BookPage
"Sissy functions as both a celebration and rejection of
popular trans narratives -- gender is mutable, it's something to
have fun with. But it's not a simple journey from A to B. It's a
neverending puzzle, a Rubik's Cube of many colors that twists and
turns to reveal different parts of yourself." --The Advocate
"[Tobia] is a gifted storyteller...Tobia writes extremely well,
with insight, lucidity, occasional anger, and, when things get too
serious, wit. The result is, hands down, one of the best trans
narratives available; it deserves a place in every
library."--Booklist (starred review) "Jacob Tobia's story
is one sent from the Goddess Herself. Truly inspiring, hilarious,
heartbreaking & honest -- Jacob's thrilling truth will have an
overwhelming impact on the LGBTQ community and beyond; giving
insight to what it means to be trans and genderqueer. I am honored
and grateful to be part of any community that Jacob is in."--Jesse
Tyler Ferguson "As someone who has served as an icon and role model
for gender-fabulous people for decades, it's been wonderful to
watch Jacob blossom. Their energy, verve, and luminosity of self
bring joy to so many, and I'm confident that Sissy will do
the same."--Miss J Alexander
"Compelling . . . Tobia's life story is exhibit number one. By the
end, your life story will be exhibit number two. Tobia is a
wonderfully droll, often self-deprecating tour guide." --New York
Observer "Dear men, please read this book. Whether you're
sensitive, bold, gay, straight, pan, bi, creative, analytical, or
don't even know who the hell you are, this book is a blueprint for
healing our gender-based trauma from the inside out. It's brilliant
and important and I couldn't put it down."--Jay Duplass "You'll
love getting inside Tobia's head as they navigate the ins and outs
of identity. For readers interested in gender, there is no better
book to pick up this spring." --Bookish
"Jacob is a unique and inspirational voice for living your own
truth. I love their personality and message, and I can't help but
creep on their Instagram;)"--Gigi Gorgeous "Sissy aims
its glitter cannon at all binaries, delivering, even in its final
pages, a surprising amount of empathy to those who have not always
been Jacob's allies. This is required reading for every human being
on the planet who wants to do better and be better. Buy the book
and learn something about yourself, then send it to your
problematic relatives."--Garrard Conley "A funny, heartbreaking and
earnest account of Tobia's early and young adult life. . . Readers
new to stories and identities like Tobia's will find this memoir an
especially welcoming introduction to the quite simple but still
revolutionary notion that there are more than two genders."
--Shelf Awareness
"Tobia shares their story
in Sissy with candor, wit and sensitivity. Like Vivek
Shraya's I'm Afraid of Men, this is a book we really need."
--Ms. Magazine "In a world full of digital noise, Jacob's words
cut right to the heart. A Mindy Kaling meets Roxane Gay treasure,
Sissy proclaims what we all know to be true: gender nonconforming
people are a powerful part of the past, present, and
future."--Tommy Dorfman "Gender nonconforming people like
Jacob aren't just a passing phase or a cool fad, they're a
fundamental part of our human family. Through embracing and
empowering nonbinary people, we empower everyone to live a more
authentic, glittering life. As a writer and an artist, I'm thrilled
about what Jacob has to say."--Dustin Lance Black
"Sissy explores the power of determination, identity,
and acceptance of self and others. I recommend the
read."--Cooper Hefner
"Most of the time in this world it feels like I'm drowning--we all
walk around playing pretend, telling ourselves stories so that we
don't have to confront the things that lurk beneath the surface.
And it's not so much that Jacob's work has 'rescued' me from
drowning--rather it's taught me that maybe there is something
generative about remaining here--underneath--in the places and
spaces and conversations that people avoid. It's this commitment to
honesty--in its most visceral sense--that makes Jacob so
exceptional and precious."--Alok Vaid-Menon
"In a culmination of vulnerability, honesty, and heart, Tobia
highlights the connective tissue that exists beyond gender and
encourages their readers to embrace what remains undefined of their
identity markers." --Paper "Deeply personal, light-hearted,
and hilarious."--BUST "This is a book that every parent should
read. We owe it to the next generation to raise children who
celebrate gender diversity and are empathetic towards themselves
and others; Sissy encourages just that. I couldn't be more
proud of what Jacob has written." --Judy Shepard "In a world
that often pressures us to conform in order to be accepted, it is
refreshing to hear Jacob Tobia's perspective. Jacob's style,
charisma, humor, wit and truth telling are authentic to Jacob and I
wouldn't be surprised if this book becomes a much talked about
example of one way to own ones truth no matter what others may
think. The world needs Jacob's voice, offering us all permission to
be our truest selves."--Sara Ramirez
"Filled with penetrating insight into what it means to live a life
between genders that will also make even the straightest, cissiest
reader cackle."--Meredith Talusan
"As someone who came out as gay while playing in the NBA, I can say
firsthand that being yourself against all odds takes guts. Through
standing up for gender nonconforming people and living their truth
for all to see, Jacob is blazing a similar trail. This book is yet
another step on Jacob's courageous road."--Jason Collins
"For any young person who's currently struggling with their gender,
Sissy will be a source of strength, power, and much-needed laughs.
From start to finish, Sissy is the kind of book that the world
needs more of."--Jazz Jennings
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