Michelle Stevens has a photo of the exact moment her childhood was stolen from her- She's only eight years old, posing for her mother's boyfriend, Gary Lundquist-an elementary school teacher, neighborhood stalwart, and brutal pedophile.
Dr. Michelle Stevens, a psychologist, is the founder and director
of Post-Traumatic Success, a nonprofit organization dedicated to
educating and inspiring those affected by psychological trauma. She
studied writing at New York University before earning her doctorate
in psychology from Saybrook University, where her thesis was
honored as the Dissertation of Distinction. Stevens has presented
her research to the International Society for the Study of Trauma
and Dissociation and the Los Angeles County Psychological
Association, where she also received an award for Outstanding
Research. She works with survivors around the globe, encouraging
them to heal, grow, and fight for better lives.
From the Hardcover edition.
"In Scared Selfless, Dr. Michelle Stevens takes readers on a remarkable journey. Her account of childhood trauma--told with candor and, yes, even wit--and how she found the strength and resilience to ultimately recover and triumph is an inspiration not just to other survivors, but to us all. The book is a guide for anybody seeking to overcome challenges and lead a richer and fuller life."--Arianna Huffington
"Scared Selfless is a riveting memoir that takes readers
on a roller coaster ride from the depths of hell to triumphant
success. Michelle's extraordinary life story and diligent,
compassionate work as a therapist teaches us that, with true-grit
determination, it's possible to overcome the worst adversity.
Scared Selfless offers courage, strength, and resilience to anyone
who desires a better life."--Dave Pelzer, author, A Child
Called 'It' "Scared Selfless is a compelling read about
choosing your path in life and owning that decision." -Dr.
Phil "A beautifully written book...with honesty [and]
humor...Through grit and hard work, what begins as Grand
Guignol finishes with a big Hollywood ending." --Vanity
Fair "A testament to hope."--People "Some books should be read. Dr.
Michelle Stevens book must be read. Prepare to cringe, to sob, and
to rejoice. This is a captivating yet harrowing read of innocence
denied, a childhood obliterated, parental indifference, grotesque
and serial predation, psychopathy, and institutional inadequacies.
But one has to exhale to be fair, because that is not all. This is
a story about the psychological legacy of abuse, the struggle to
survive a troubled mind, the challenges of finding elusive help and
about finally and triumphantly finding redemption through the most
unapologetic example of personal grit I've ever read. I could not
put this book down and neither will you, not if you care about
others, not if you care about children. There are heroes and there
are giants in this world: Dr. Stevens is both."--Joe Navarro,
Special Agent (Ret.) and author of Dangerous Personalities
"Michelle Stevens has written a fierce, honest account of her life
that will stay with any reader long after the last page has turned.
This book does more to explain what it feels like to live with the
effects of trauma than anything I've ever read. It's the rare book
that's both personal and clinical. It should be a resource and an
inspiration not just to survivors but to those who love and seek to
understand them."--Sara Corbett, co-author of A House in the
"What an astonishing and extraordinary book! I wasn't planning to read the whole book in one sitting, but I literally couldn't put it down. In a few brief hours I experienced shock, dismay, and eventually hope as Michelle Stevens shared her remarkable journey. Then I told five friends, 'You have to read this book.' Now I am telling you--'You have to read this book.' It is a story that has to be told. I celebrate Michelle Stevens for having the courage to write it. It will mesmerize you, confound you, and eventually inspire you--as you realize that anything, no matter how horrific--can be overcome." --Jack Canfield, coauthor of the bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul series and The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be "Courageous and insightful, Stevens' book is not only important for the light it sheds on some of the effects of extreme sexual abuse. It also provides hope to survivors that living "a successful and satisfying life" is absolutely possible. A raw and powerful account from a survivor of unspeakable abuse."--Kirkus Reviews "Occasionally, a book comes along that absolutely takes my breath away. Scared Selfless is such a book...I could. Not. Put. It. Down...It is as harrowing as it is deeply engrossing. What I hadn't prepared myself for was this: a tale that, in the end, would leave me in the presence of such unrelenting beauty, grace, and hope. Dr. Stevens is not only a remarkable storyteller, she is also an extraordinary healer. Her greatest balm is that of her unflinching personal truth, laid bare on these pages."--Michelle Burford, coauthor with Michelle Knight of Finding Me