Ed Tronick, PhD, is a developmental and clinical
psychologist, and the co-founder of the Child Development Unit at
Boston Children's hospital and the Touchpoints Program with T.
Berry Brazelton. He is currently a University Distinguished
Professor of Psychology at the University of Massachusetts Boston,
a Research Associate in Newborn Medicine at Harvard Medical School,
and director of the Infant-Parent Mental Health Fellowship Program
at the University of Massachusetts Boston, which has trained more
than 500 interdisciplinary practitioners from all over the world.
He has co-authored and authored five books and more than 450
scientific papers on infant neuro-behavior, social-emotional
development, cross-cultural parenting practices, and the Still-Face
paradigm, which he developed.
He has been featured by Nova, 60 Minutes, the New York Times, and the Boston Globe, among others and speaks to audiences world-wide. Claudia M. Gold, MD, is a pediatrician and writer with a long-standing interest in addressing children's mental health needs in a preventive model. She practiced general and behavioral pediatrics for over 20 years, and currently specializes in infant-parent mental health. She is the author of Keeping Your Child in Mind, The Silenced Child, and The Developmental Science of Early Childhood. She writes regularly for Psychology Today, and speaks frequently to a wide range of audiences. She is on the faculty of the Infant-Parent Mental Health Fellowship Program at the University of Massachusetts Boston and the Brazelton Institute at Boston Children's Hospital.
A brilliant overview of our contemporary relational landscape that
argues that what people -- both children and adults -- need most is
the messiness of real relationships, with their conflicts, partial
resolutions, and imperfect efforts at repair. In trying to make
these things work, we practice attention, connection, and
listening. We practice our humanity. We learn to put technology in
its place. A book for thinking and for practical action. A
--Sherry Turkle, author of Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology
In this fabulous book, which everyone must own, Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold give all of us a scientifically-based compass for negotiating the messiness of social interaction. Rather than searching for perfection, in this book they teach us that it is the messiness and the mistakes we inevitably make as parents, friends, and lovers, and the repair of our mistakes that really matters. For in repair we 'co-create a new meaning, ' and relationships thrive and proceed, full of life and good enough. Get this book!
--John Gottman, author of Seven Principles for Making Marriage
Lively and riveting...Human connections have the power to heal by engaging us in a new set of moment-to- moment mismatches...as long as we are open to repair and reconnect.
--Bessel van der Kolk, MD, author of The Body Keeps the Score
Our relationships with attachment figures are often innately 'messy' and filled with discord as mismatches rupture the attuned, resonant alignments that are possible in our relational world. The reconnection established in the mismatch-repair process illuminated in this important work enables us to develop resilience in the face of the inevitable disconnections in these important self-defining close connections in our lives. This wise book will help many to reframe such ruptures as opportunities rather than troublesome burdens, painful yet important challenges that can actually afford us the interactive reconnection experiences that serve as the foundation for flourishing in life.--Daniel J. Siegel, MD, author of Mindsight and Clinical Professor, UCLA School of Medicine
This profoundly wise book sets out how the dance of connection and disconnection with attachment figures molds our nervous system, our emotional lives, our sense of self, and our ability to dance in tune with others. When we miss each other is when we truly learn to turn, reach, and connect. There are no slick tips for perfect relationships with your kids or lovers here. Just a deep understanding of how the imperfections of life and love can make us strong.
--Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight