Table of Contents

Cole, Foreword. Preface. Acknowledgments. Introduction. Transgender 101. Partner's Stories and Commentaries. Kate and Joe. Sally and Mike. Jo and Cameron/Clarice. Shelly and Marv/Allie. Bernadette and Gene. Joan and Don/Lucy. Julie and Dan/Diana. Holly and Jack/Jackie. Angie and Tommy/Charla. Rita and Bill. Leah and Frank/Franki. Cheryl and Jerry/Marge, and Mark/Lora. Katherine and Paul/Petra. Celeste and Ed/Edy. Nicole and Bob/Bobbi. Ellen and Alfred. Angelita and Tom/Theresa. Melissa and Steve/Stephanie. Sandy and Mandy (formerly Mark). Megan and Patrick/Trish. Mary and Jim/Jan. Gracie and Jane (formerly James). Sarah and Natalie (formerly Nathaniel). Bonk and Gwen. Miriam and Linda (formerly Gregg). Kat and Anna (formerly Dave). Anne and Diane (formerly Dick). Judi and Mindy. Conclusion. Appendix. Resources. Glossary. Bibliography. Index. References.

About the Author

Virginia Erhardt, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and gender specialist in private practice. She is a member of the Georgia Psychological Association, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), and the Harry Benjamin International Gender Dysphoria Association. She has offered presentations and facilitated seminars internationally on topics related to transgender, partners of gender-variant individuals, and intersex conditions. She appeared in 2003 on a Dateline NBC segment about married couples who stay together when one spouse is transitioning from male to female. Dr. Erhardt is co-author of Journey Toward Intimacy: A Handbook for Lesbian Couples. She has been published in Transgender Tapestry magazine and Transgender Community News, and was a columnist for the Southern Voice newspaper for three years.

Reviews

"Erhardt's book is a long-awaited and essential contribution to the literature on transgender people and their families, revealing the nuanced experiences of women who love men who cross the gender binary and live as, or express themselves as, women!This book will provide essential insight for clinicians and lay readers alike on gender transgression in families and the power of committed loving partnerships. The myth that marriages to transgender people are doomed to failure has been put to rest. Erhardt's book will hopefully guide clinical theory to better serve families struggling with the lifecycle upheaval of transgender emergence." -- Arlene Istar Lev LCSW, CASAC, The American Journal of Family Therapy "Recognizing the voices, feelings and experiences of these women is a significant contribution to the evolution of trans-understanding within family studies!These individual stories bring out larger culturally constructed gender norms, privilege presence, and offer ways to express feelings and needs in romantic relationships!..The relationships discussed in Head Over Heels are complex and life-altering, but all benefit from honest expressions of feelings and needs. Presence from the heart can move relationships beyond the head, and the heels." -- Jessie Stewart, Journal of GLBT Family Studies