Wiley PracticePlanners (R) Series Preface xv Acknowledgments xvii Introduction xix SECTION I Activity/Family Imbalance 1 Exercise I.A When Can We Be Together? 2 SECTION II Addictions 3 Exercise II.A How Much Does It Cost? 4 Exercise II.B Staying Clean 8 Exercise II.C What Else Can I Do? 11 Exercise II.D Keeping Busy 13 SECTION III Adoption 15 Exercise III.A This Is How I Feel 16 Exercise III.B My Safe Place 19 SECTION IV Anger Management 20 Exercise IV.A Is It Passive, Aggressive, or Assertive? 21 Exercise IV.B Why Am I So Angry? 26 Exercise IV.C What Happens When I Become Angry? 28 Exercise IV.D I Don t Have Any Bruises But I Still Hurt 31 Exercise IV.E Go Blow Out Some Candles 36 SECTION V Anxiety 37 Exercise V.A It s Us Against the Anxiety 38 Exercise V.B My/Our Daughter Is Afraid to Go to School 40 Exercise V.C When I Feel Anxious It Is Like . . . 42 Exercise V.D My Mother s Anxiety Makes Me Feel . . . 45 SECTION VI Behavioral Problems With Children and Adolescents 47 Exercise VI.A My Child Just Won t Listen 48 Exercise VI.B Acting as If 52 Exercise VI.C We Have to Make Some Type of Agreement 55 Exercise VI.D Charting Our Course 58 SECTION VII Bipolar 60 Exercise VII.A My Mom Just Won t Stay on Her Medication 61 SECTION VIII Blaming 65 Exercise VIII.A What Do I Say? What Can I Say? 66 Exercise VIII.B Don t Look at Me, Ask Him 69 Exercise VIII.C The Blaming Jar 71 Exercise VIII.D What s My Job? 73 SECTION IX Blended Families 75 Exercise IX.A I Don t Like It When You . . . 76 Exercise IX.B I Have Too Many Parents 80 Exercise IX.C We Need to Agree 85 SECTION X Communication Problems 88 Exercise X.A How Can I Talk So He ll Listen? 89 Exercise X.B Everything Is Always Negative in Our House 92 SECTION XI Death/Loss Issues 93 Exercise XI.A Remember When . . . 94 Exercise XI.B Until We Meet Again, Love 97 Exercise XI.C The Questions, Feelings, Comments/Concerns Game 102 SECTION XII Dependency 103 Exercise XII.A Dependency Go Away 104 SECTION XIII Depression 106 Exercise XIII.A Do I Have To Be Depressed? 107 Exercise XIII.B My Positive Script 110 Exercise XIII.C Someone in My Family Is Depressed 113 Exercise XIII.D What Am I Thinking When I Am Feeling Depressed? 115 Exercise XIII.E What Do Others Value about Me? 117 Exercise XIII.F My/Our Daughter is Depressed 119 SECTION XIV Disengagement/Loss of Family Cohesion 121 Exercise XIV.A Circles of Perception 122 SECTION XV Eating Disorders 124 Exercise XV.A I Need to Get Control 125 Exercise XV.B What Am I Thinking? 128 Exercise XV.C Why Is She Doing This? 131 SECTION XVI Estranged Family Members 133 Exercise XVI.A We re No Longer Speaking to One Another 134 Exercise XVI.B I Miss You 136 SECTION XVII Family Business Conflicts 139 Exercise XVII.A A Changing of the Guard 140 Exercise XVII.B Who Is Doing What? 142 SECTION XVIII Family-of-Origin Interference 143 Exercise XVIII.A Thanks, But No Thanks 144 Exercise XVIII.B How Can I Tell Her to Mind Her Own Business? 146 SECTION XIX Foster Care 147 Exercise XIX.A I Want to Go Home 148 SECTION XX Geographic Relocation 150 Exercise XX.A We re Moving 151 Exercise XX.B Should We or Should We Not? 153 SECTION XXI Inheritance Disputes 155 Exercise XXI.A He Always Did Like You Best 156 SECTION XXII Interracial Family Problems 157 Exercise XXII.A They re Calling Me a Half-Breed 158 SECTION XXIII Intolerance/Defensiveness 160 Exercise XXIII.A Before and After 161 Exercise XXIII.B Why Can t You Understand My Side for Once? Part I 164 Exercise XXIII.C Why Can t You Understand My Side for Once? Part II 166 SECTION XXIV Jealousy/Insecurity 167 Exercise XXIV.A I Don t Have to Be Jealous or Insecure Anymore 168 Exercise XXIV.B I Am Not Jealous 171 SECTION XXV Life-Threatening/Chronic Illness 174 Exercise XXV.A Johnny Has Leukemia 175 SECTION XXVI Multiple-Birth Dilemmas 176 Exercise XXVI.A With Seven You Get an Eggroll 177 Exercise XXVI.B How Are We Going to Do This? 179 SECTION XXVII Pervasive Developmental Disorders 180 Exercise XXVII.A Knowing What to Expect 181 SECTION XXVIII Physical Disabilities 182 Exercise XXVIII.A Why Is Dad in Bed All Day? 183 SECTION XXIX Physical/Verbal/Psychological Abuse 184 Exercise XXIX.A What Is Okay and What Is Not Okay? 185 SECTION XXX Religious/Spiritual Conflicts 187 Exercise XXX.A I Don t Know What to Believe in Anymore 188 SECTION XXXI Schizophrenia 190 Exercise XXXI.A My Brother Hears Voices 191 SECTION XXXII School Problems 193 Exercise XXXII.A My Teenager Is Truant 194 SECTION XXXIII Separation/Divorce 197 Exercise XXXIII.A My Parents Are Getting a Divorce 198 SECTION XXXIV Sexual Abuse 200 Exercise XXXIV.A I Will Be a Survivor! 201 Exercise XXXIV.B Getting It Out 208 Exercise XXXIV.C I Gotta Stop Thinking This Way 213 Exercise XXXIV.D A Picture Is Worth a Thousand Words 215 SECTION XXXV Sexual Preferences 219 Exercise XXXV.A I Am Still Danny 220 SECTION XXXVI Suicide Attempts 221 Exercise XXXVI.A I Want Things to Be Better 222 Exercise XXXVI.B Creating a Positive Outlook 227 SECTION XXXVII Unwanted/Unplanned Pregnancies 229 Exercise XXXVII.A Honey, Guess What? 230 References 233 About the Authors 235 About the Downloadable Assignments 237
LOUIS J. BEVILACQUA, PSYD, is a Clinical Psychologist and Vice President of Life Counseling Services (LCS), which has over twenty-five office locations throughout Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and Florida. Dr. Bevilacqua is the Internship Training Director at LCS, which is an Association of Psychology Postdoctoral and Internship Centers (APPIC) approved training program. FRANK M. DATTILIO, PHD, ABPP, maintains a dual faculty appointment in the Department of Psychiatry at??Harvard Medical School??and the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine. He is the recipient of numerous awards, including the Distinguished Psychologist Award from the American Psychological Association's Division 29. He has written more than 200 professional publications and fourteen books in the areas of marital and family discord, anxiety disorders, and forensic and clinical psychology.