Amy J.L. Baker, PhD, is a national expert on children caught in loyalty conflicts and has written a seminal book on the topic, Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome, a professional book published by WW Norton. She conducts trainings around the country for parents and legal and mental health professionals, has written dozens of scholarly articles on topics related to parent-children relationships, and has appeared on national TV such as Good Morning America, CNN, and the Joy Behar Show. She has been quoted in the New York Times and U.S. News and World Report, among other print media outlets. Baker graduated from Barnard College, Suma Cum Laude, and Phi Beta Kappa. She has a PhD in human development from Teachers College of Columbia University. More information is available on her website at www.amyjlbaker.com. Paul R. Fine, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist in practice at a community mental health center in northern New Jersey. He has over 25 years' experience working with diverse populations. His practice includes an eclectic and humanistic approach to problems faced by individuals and families.
Parenting expert Baker (Adult Children of Parental Alienation
Syndrome) and psychotherapist Fine have created a workbook
specifically for divorced co-parents who sense they are losing the
battle for their children's love, loyalty, and respect. The book
features tools, strategies, written exercises, and dialogues
designed to help reduce the ex's negative influence and 'delay, if
not prevent' a child from choosing one parent over another. This
guide helps co-parents recognize and understand the signs and
symptoms of loyalty struggles and their insidious effects, while
offering remedies based in positive and mindful parenting to help
fashion a safe and loving environment. The authors suggest the
familiar protocol of positive parenting as a way to strengthen the
parent-child bond, and, when coupled with mindfulness techniques
for personal awareness, this protocol can help unhappy, stressed
parents handle the animosity and negative influence of their ex.
Like a guerilla manual, the book arms co-parents with tools for
coping with a variety of scenarios, including when the ex is
sending poisonous messages, interfering with contact and
communication, 'erasing and replacing, ' encouraging the child to
betray confidences and trust, or undermining the co-parent's
authority. Genuinely helpful, this guide tackles a sensitive
problem and shows how to diffuse it with accepted and proven
"Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex is an excellent book for any parent dealing with a high-conflict co-parent in a separation or divorce. Baker and Fine accurately describe the hidden patterns of manipulation by a toxic ex that can lead to an alienated child--one who wants to avoid the other parent. Most important, they teach what to do and what not to do to protect a healthy parent-child relationship for the other parent regardless of these manipulations. This is a minefield and they provide supportive strategies and numerous tips for a reasonable parent to use--including how to avoid getting angry, giving up, or giving in."
--Bill Eddy, lawyer, therapist, and author of Don't Alienate the Kids!: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce (www.HighConflictInstitute.com)
"In recent years, the study of parental alienation has become an enormously complex topic addressed in hundreds of books, scholarly chapters, and papers in academic journals. A parent who finds herself or himself alienated from a previously loving child may quickly feel overwhelmed by the vast amount of professional and amateur advice that is available. Amy J. L. Baker and Paul R. Fine have found a way to help alienated parents quickly--by focusing on five specific strategies by which a former spouse may cause parental alienation."
--William Bernet, MD, professor emeritus at Vanderbilt University School of Medicine, Nashville, TN
"This book provides the reader with much needed support as well as specific and helpful advice about how to parent a child who is involved in his parent's conflict. Every child deserves to love and be loved by both parents, and this book will help targeted parents achieve that goal."
--Jason Patric, actor, targeted father, and founder of Stand Up for Gus
"While Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex is technically not classified as a workbook, divorce is work, and often becomes a full time job. Amy J. L. Baker and Paul R. Fine have developed a chapter-by-chapter playbook for parents in any stage of divorce. The book encourages parents to bring strong parenting skills to the table while trying to create a solid foundation for the identity, growth, and maturity of their children. This dynamic duo does it again for so many parents struggling to find their way through the maze of co-parenting after divorce. Bravo!"
--Jill Egizii, president of the Parental Alienation Awareness Organization, USA