5.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 13/01/2007

Inner-Directed Stage. Eventually, non-BPs look inward and conduct an honest apparaisal of themselves. It takes two people to have a relationship, and the goal for non-BPs in this stage is to better understand their role in making the relationship what it now is. The objective here is not self-recrimination, but insight and self-discovery.

Decision-Making Stage. Armed with knowledge and insight, non-BPs struggle to make decisions about the relationship. This stage can often take months or years. Non-BPs in this stage need to clearly understand their own values, beliefs, expectations, and assumptions. For example, one man with a physically violent borderline wife came from a conservative family that strongly disapprove of divorce. His friends counseled him to separate from her, but he felt unable to do so because of his concern about how his family would react. You may find that your beliefs and values have served you well throughout your life. Or you may find that you inherited them from your family without determining whether or not they truly reflect who you are. Either way, it is important to be guided by your OWN values--not someone else's.

Resolution Phase. In this final stage, non-BPs implement their decisions and live with them. Depending upon the type of relationship, some non-BPs may, over time, change their minds many times and try different alternatives.

And:

....When it comes to chosen relationships, we found that the BP's willingness to admit they had a problem and seek help was by far the determining factor as to whether the couple stayed together or not....

If you are looking at this right now, know that you are not alone. There are countless others who understand all you have been through for nothing. Get on the non-BP mailing list at Randi Kreger's site and buy this book NOW. It can and will save your life, whatever you decide.

4.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 31/08/2009

'Stop Walking on Eggshells' is a helpful book designed for people who live with a difficult person who may be a sufferer of borderline personality disorder. I was delighted to see for the first time an explanation of why this condition is called 'borderline'.

The value of the book is that it not only charts characteristic behaviour patterns of BPD, but explains how the BPD person also suffers. It also explores the question of whether BPD has a hereditary or genetic element; unfortunately there are no clear answers at this stage. More research on this problem is still needed.

One thing I like about the book is that it explains clearly that it is better not to try to explain BPD to the sufferer or try to help them - which those who love them instinctively want to do - and explains clearly why it won't work, which is that an inability to accept such help is part of the condition of people with BPD. They have a coping mechanism for 'managing' their lives which is more comfortable for them than self-understanding, and it is very rare for them to achieve genuine introspection.

5.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 24/06/2008

This book is the most practical, hands-on help that anyone faced with having to assist, or live with a sufferer or borderline personality disorder, could possibly read.
The advice and suggestions in it are so useful that it has been a huge help to our family. We were using a borrowed copy from the library but found that it was such a good handbook of tools that we bought a copy. We have read other books by the same author but, being in direct need of accessing help immediately, this title was by far the best of the series.

5.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 24/06/2008

This book is the most practical, hands-on help that anyone faced with having to assist, or live with a sufferer or borderline personality disorder, could possibly read.
The advice and suggestions in it are so useful that it has been a huge help to our family. We were using a borrowed copy from the library but found that it was such a good handbook of tools that we bought a copy. We have read other books by the same author but, being in direct need of accessing help immediately, this title was by far the best of the series.

5.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 22/09/2006

this is really informative read and it helped me get through a rough time i had when my aunt was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. i didnt even know what borderline personality disorder was it first but this book helped me out more than i can say. it provided me with much needed knowledge to help my aunt.

5.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 13/07/2009

Was highly recommended and is very helpful. Thanks

5.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 13/07/2009

Was highly recommended and is very helpful. Thanks

5.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 13/07/2009

Was highly recommended and is very helpful. Thanks

5.0 out of 5 based on 9 reviews. – Customer review on 13/07/2009

Was highly recommended and is very helpful. Thanks