– Customer review on 15/07/2010

Real Rape, Real Pain busts the myth wide open . . . that in fact women that are involved with an abusive partner do indeed get raped, that just because it's happening inside marriages and relationships, it is still rape. This book reinterates that rape can happen anywhere, to anyone, at any time. Rape is not confined to stranger attack.

The authors, and thirty survivors share some painful memories, their stories and their courage. The authors cover a lot of territory, beginning with society and how it has helped shape how men treat women; that as a society we actually perpetuate the myth that rape doesn't happen at home, when it fact it does more often that we care to acknowledge.

This is a powerful read, and this resource should be available in every Rape Crisis Center around the world. It's informative, offering information for leaving an abusive relationship through to the steps you can take, through to covering your choice to stay in the relationship.

The key focus throughout the book is what the survivor thinks about herself, what is emphasised is that the problem lies with the abuser not the abused; the victim is encouraged to stay positive, to pamper ones self, and to remember to never define yourself by what happened to you.