PART 1: From Loneliness to Frientimacy
Chapter 1: Admit the Desire: I Value New Friends!
Chapter 2: Learn the Circles of Connectedness: What Are the Five
Types of Friends There?
Chapter 3: Determine the Need: Evaluating My Friendship Circles
Chapter 4: Anticipate the Frientimacy: Developing the Intimacy We
Crave
PART 2: Five Steps to Turn Friendly People You Meet into Friends
Who Matter
Chapter 5: Be Open: Making New Left-Side Friends
Chapter 6: Take Initiative: Every Friendship Needs Momentum
Chapter 7: Add Consistency: Form Familiarity with Repeated
Positivity
Chapter 8: Increase Vulnerability: Risking Rejection to Accept
Honesty
Chapter 9: Practice Forgiveness: It’s the Lesson of
Relationships
PART 3: Friendships Don’t Just Keep Happening: Be Intentional
Chapter 10: Follow Grace: Responding to the Five Friendship
Threats
Chapter 11: Activate Friendship: Moving from Inspiration to Action
"Shasta Nelson" is a nationally recognized friendship expert. She
is the Founder and CEO of GirlFriendCircles.com, the only online
community that matches new friends offline by connecting local
women in cities across the U.S. She has been featured as a
friendship expert on "The Today Show, ""The Early Show" and in "The
New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, The San Francisco Chronicle,
The Huffington Post, Martha Stewart Radio, Essence, Parents, More,
Redbook, " and "Glamour, " among others. Her current book,
"Friendships Don't Just Happen!, " is the culmination of years of
proven success from her work at GirlFriendCircles.com.
Shasta is also a nationally acclaimed public speaker, most recently
for Tory Johnson's Spark & Hustle Tour in Chicago and at Savor the
Success in San Francisco. She regularly hosts Speed-Friending
events in New York, Chicago, Los Angeles, and San Francisco, where
she facilitates local women getting to know each other and inspires
them with her book.
“I knew I’d adore Friendships Don’t Just Happen! as soon as I
saw the title. It’s tough to make friends as an adult, and women
are often made to think we’ve done something wrong if new pals
don’t come easily. Shasta Nelson does a great job of breaking down
how to identify the friendships you need, how to go about forging
new relationships, and how to turn those relationships into true
friendships. I’d recommend this book to anyone who is looking to
make new friends or strengthen their existing friendships. In fact,
there is no one who won’t benefit from reading Friendships Don’t
Just Happen!”
—Rachel Bertsche, author of MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for
a New Best Friend
“As CEO of GirlFriendCircles.com, Shasta Nelson has made bringing
women together her life’s work. Now, Shasta has written an
inspiring book that empowers women to reach out and connect as
individuals. Friendships Don’t Just Happen! is a call to action,
offering women practical tips and tools to find and nurture
meaningful friendships. The perfect workbook for someone who wants
to work on their friendships!”
—Irene S. Levine, PhD, Professor of Psychiatry, NYU School of
Medicine, author of Best Friends Forever: Surviving a Breakup with
Your Best Friend
“How could it be that I made it through graduate school and yet I
was never taught about healthy friendships? As I was reading
Friendships Don’t Just Happen!, I had this profound wish that
someone had shared all of this amazing information with me when I
was much younger. This book should be required reading for women of
all ages and especially for mothers of daughters.”
—Christine Bronstein, CEO of A Band of Wives, editor of Nothing But
the Truth So Help Me God: 51 Women Reveal the Power of Positive
Female Connection
“Loving friendships are essential to feeling fulfilled and well
nourished. And this is one AWESOME book that walks us through
really well laid-out steps of creating and nurturing supportive and
lifelong friendships that too few of us have been taught or
shown.”
—Christine Hassler, author of 20 Something, 20 Everything and 20
Something Manifesto, speaker and coach
“At a time when so many people are “friending” one another online
yet reporting feelings of loneliness, Friendships Don’t Just
Happen! reminds us that friendships worth creating are done with
intention and significance.”
—Dale V. Atkins, PhD, psychologist, author, media commentator
""Shasta articulates and deconstructs friendship so powerfully,
inspiring women to reclaim the soul of friendship and giving us the
tools and language to be able to do so with depth and connection.""
—Ayesha Mathews Wadhwa, Savor the Success Leader
""Shasta has created extremely powerful tools to help women
evaluate . . . their friendships so they can clearly see what they
need to do to have fulfilling friendships in their lives."" —Nancy
Larocca Hedley, SF Coaches Programs Co-Director, 2009
""Women read books on parenting, romance, and diet all the time,
but when was the last time we read about our friendships? As I read
this book I was amazed by how much I didn't know that I didn't
know. We need this book in huge ways! We've never been taught about
the types of friends, healthy expectations, incremental
vulnerability, and the steps of developing friendships. This book
was so eye-opening and hope-filling. Read this book, get one for
your mom, sister, friend, clients . . . the art of friendship is
seeing a revival thanks to Shasta Nelson!""
—Angela Jia Kim, Founder of Savor the Success and Savor Spa
""When it comes to getting the girlfriend love you need (and we all
need it!), Shasta Nelson has the path. No longer do you need to
wish you had close, soulful relationships with other women; with
this book as your guide, you are empowered to create them! This
book is SO good, so thorough, and so perfect!""
—Christine Arylo, self-love teacher and author of Madly in Love
with ME: the Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend
“Shasta sums up what it takes to make and sustain relationships,
and validates all my neuroses about this subject. She teaches us
how to nurture friendships, how to focus on what can be a most
important thing in our lives . . . OUR GIRLFRIENDS!”
—Melody Biringer, Founder of www.thecravecompany.com
“When it comes to friendships, there is no better person to learn
from than Shasta Nelson. Her book is a beautiful reminder of how
important it is to maintain healthy friendships throughout our
lives, as many women tend to put themselves and their friendships
last on the to-do list!! Inspiring and practical, Shasta's
step-by-step guidance is not only uplifting, it is deep and honest.
She teaches us necessary skills to deal with difficult, real-life
issues, and helps us move forward from what she calls 'The 5
Friendship Threats' with true forgiveness, compassion, and
understanding. I highly recommend this book for every woman who
yearns for a meaningful, lifelong connection to her
girlfriends!!”
—Jennifer Tuma-Young, author of Balance Your Life, Balance the
Scale
“Friendships Don’t Just Happen! not only strengthens and deepens
current friendships, but it starts with reminding us how normal it
is to actually need new friends regularly through life. It can be
hard to admit when we need more friends, and even harder still to
know how to develop meaningful friendships. I love how Shasta
Nelson walks us through every step of the way.”
—Debba Haupert, Founder of Girlfriendology.com
From Publishers Weekly:
Admitting a lack of friendships is difficult for those who see
their own desire to overcome the problem as desperation. Once a
woman finds reasonably good friends, going deeper can prove
difficult, particularly if several friends regularly spend time
together. Nelson, a public speaker and the founder of
www.girlfriendcircles.com, has a solution for women in search of
close, lifelong friends and offers these clueless friends-to-be
advice on what to do to make existing relationships more
meaningful: all parsed down as time, respect, ""sharing questions""
and direct honesty. Nelson’s platonic girlfriend-matching website
plays second fiddle here; this tome is a stand-alone compendium of
tips, research, and wisdom that will help women who want more from
their friendships with other women. She refrains from excessive pop
psychology, outlines important distinctions in otherwise mundane
concepts like “forgiveness”, and readers will learn about her
central model of “frientimacy”. Much of the advice is original and
of Nelson’s own design and readers will be pleasantly surprised by
the depth of her knowledge about what makes healthy friendships
work. (Feb.)
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